Healthy relationships aren't relations devoid of conflict. When it comes to conflict, there is no difference between healthy relationships and unhealthy relationships. But healthy relationships are ones where the parties are able to recognize and call fouls when fouls have occurred.
There is no such thing as a relationship without conflict.
Jesus said, "When two or more are gathered in my name, there I am in there midst." While that's certainly true, it's also true that whenever two or more are gathered, there is bound to be conflict, misunderstandings, offences, and hurt feelings. And this will always be the case until Jesus comes again.
So the key to healthy relationships, organizations, and churches is not that they are devoid of conflict, but that the community is able to recognize and call fouls when they occur.
When an organization does not deal with fouls in a healthy way dysfunction, disunity, and low morale is the result. This is also the case when fouls are not clearly defined in organizations and in relationships.
While it is true that each organization has its own culture and its way of doing things, there are some universal truths about all human beings.
- everyone wants to be valued
- everyone wants to be treated with respect
- everyone wants to contribute to something greater than themselves
When these universal needs are violated, a foul has occurred.
And when those fouls are not recognized and addressed in healthy ways, that organization and relationships will become unhealthy.
So how healthy are your relationships, organizations, and churches?
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